Valentine’s Day, otherwise known as “Single Awareness Day,” seems to have a way of making single people feel extra single. Western society has gone out of their way to make being single on Valentine’s Day something bad, whether it be by choice or circumstance, with the nauseating amounts of romantic comedies, flowers and romance novels. Because of this, many singles often times dread this day and will complain about how lonely they are and wonder why they don’t have a Valentine.
Now I’ll admit, I’ve never had a Valentine. Yes, I’ve had boyfriends but whenever Valentine’s Day rolled around, I wasn’t with anyone. Sometimes I’ve felt a little lonely and even slightly envious of couples who actually had reason to look forward to Valentine’s Day. Even though all that sounds bad, it really isn’t that bad.
Whenever I start to feel this way, I start to think about the positives about being single rather than the negatives. I don’t have to spend money on cheesy love cards or gifts and the fact that I live for myself rather than for someone else. Here are some other things single people can do on Valentine’s Day other than whine about being single.
First off, don’t be fooled by the hype that everyone who is paired off is happy. We often get caught up in the idea that if we’re not in a relationship, something is missing from our lives and that we’re not truly happy. This is simply not true. Just as there are many happy single people out there, there are also many taken people who are miserable. If someone feels the need to rub it in your face, tell them you do what you want and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Feel sorry for them next Valentine’s Day when they don’t have anyone.
Also, learn to be happy with yourself regardless of your relationship status. The idea that romantic films and novels is try to sell is that the other person in the relationship “completes you” and that he or she is “your other half.” Please. People who take this idea too seriously many times end up in unhealthy relationships which they become too dependent on their partner for their own happiness and lose who they are, which is not romantic.
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t treat yourself to something nice. Buy some chocolate or a six pack or a bottle of wine. Make yourself an awesome dinner or go to a nice restaurant with some single friends. Many bars will also hold singles parties on Valentine’s Day to celebrate not being tied down to somebody. But make sure not to overdo it by hooking up with a random person because that’s not going to cure your loneliness.
As cheesy as this sounds, just take a moment and think about how good your life is. While you may feel depressed about not having a Valentine, think about all the people in the world who lack the basic necessities such as food, water, shelter or freedom. When you think about what people in developing countries have to do in order to survive each day, it makes your situation seem pretty good.
Finally, just embrace your singleness. You’re young and this is supposed to be the best time of your life. This is the most freedom you’re ever going to have so take advantage of it. There will be plenty of Valentine’s Days to celebrate in the future and just because you don’t have one this year, doesn’t mean you won’t have one later. Besides, true love is celebrated every day, not just on February 14.