Zoom I Heart Female Orgasm

Eckerd students logged on to Zoom to attend “I ❤ Female Orgasm.” Cameras stayed off for most of the event, but were turned on at the end to snap this shot.

There truly is no better way to spend your Monday night than by learning how to orgasm. Particularly for vagina owners and pleasers. On Oct. 12th at 7:30 p.m., more than 500 Eckerd students logged onto Zoom for one of Eckerd’s most popular College Program Series events, “I ❤ Female Orgasm.” 

For almost two hours, sex educators Lindsay Fram and Marshall Miller became our female orgasm mentors and provided expert advice to improve the overall sexual experience. Miller attended Brown University where he got a degree in Sexuality and Society. He also co-founded “Sex Discussed Here!” which delivers “I ❤ Female Orgasm” and several other sex education programs to colleges and conferences across the nation. Fram has a Master of Public Health from Tulane University and has specialized in sexuality for 15 years. 

Fram and Miller taught the audience about the ingredients for female ejaculate, how to navigate the vulva and the most effective ways to stimulate the clitoris and g-spot. Did you know that wearing socks during sex promotes better orgasms because of the improved blood flow? A study at the University of Groningen found that 80 percent of couples who wore socks during sex achieved orgasm, while only 50 percent of sockless couples were able to climax. That’s why Fram and Miller gave away a pair of “I ❤ Female Orgasm” socks.

“I loved the humor interlaced with the info, like the video clips and polls,” sophomore Abigail Parker said. “I realized I need to look more in-depth with myself since I still haven’t experienced sex or sexual education much.” 

Fram and Miller made students laugh and hopefully helped them orgasm, too. “I ❤ Female Orgasm” can awaken vagina owners and pleasers to the world of sex. Hopefully the information presented helps people to begin a sensual journey with themselves, in which they learn more about who they are and engage in positive sexual experiences. 

Miller and Fram emphasized that an important part of achieving a female orgasm, especially through masturbation, is being comfortable and proud of the vulva. They encouraged vagina owners to befriend their vulva by spending time alone examining and pleasuring it. They reminded everyone that no two vulvas look the same and that no one should ever compare themselves to what is portrayed in porn. That includes the appearance of the vagina and the way pornstars perform unrealistic sex. 

“I’m a very scientific person—I like having as much info as possible for everything,” junior Serenity Haynes said. “I really appreciated the time [Fram and Miller] took to debunk some specific things.” 

Throughout the event, Fram and Miller kept students engaged by having them respond to polls about vibrators, penis size and orgasm experiences through an interactive platform called “Wooclap.” Cameras and microphones were muted for most of the event, but students were able to interact with each other through the polls. People submitted personal questions that they wanted to discuss, and some viewers sent in responses with their own answers and advice. 

Miller mentioned that misinformation and lack of information are two of the biggest challenges that they face in sex education. “I ❤ Female Orgasm” overcame this by exposing sources of misinformation, like porn, thoroughly discussing the female anatomy and how to pleasure it and correcting myths that students have heard, such as doing kegels for better orgasms. 

“I think people don’t really know how to talk about sex or there’s sometimes some embarrassment behind it when it’s just a natural human thing and with this event they take these topics and really normalize them,” said Cory Champer, assistant director of outreach services and health promotion and organizer of the event. “It’s a comfortable environment to ask any type of questions.” 

Miller and Fram welcomed everyone with their light-hearted personalities, open energy and commitment to inclusivity. The increased anonymity from operating fully on Zoom also helped people to feel more comfortable responding to polls truthfully and asking any questions that were on their minds. 

A personal tip I want to give to vagina owners when trying to orgasm is to concentrate. Focusing on your orgasm and not letting your mind wander to unrelated places is key to reaching climax. This goes for vagina pleasers as well; when you give your undivided attention to helping your partner reach orgasm, it is more likely to happen. 

If you missed out on “I ❤ Female Orgasm,” don’t worry. Miller co-wrote a book with Dorian Solot called, “I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide.” A copy was given away during the event, but it’s also available for purchase on Amazon and their website. I hope that people logged off of this event with a new abundance of knowledge about sex and the female orgasm. But if there’s one thing that you should take away, it’s this quote from Fram: 

“Orgasms are available to everyone. It just might take a little bit more patience than you think. Go slow, and be kind to yourself.” 

Happy orgasming, Eckerd. 

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